Before I can live with other folks I’ve got to live with myself.
Slow down and enjoy yourself a little more, don’t be so serious, life is not race.
You need to spend time crawling alone through shadows to truly appreciate what it is to stand in the sun.
As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are-what others say is irrelevant.
I just spent a week in Mexico with 500 people in various stages of recovery. It’s an annual event sponsored by Sober Vacations International. Mostly alcoholics like myself, the gathering included alcoholics and drug addicts with anywhere from 4 days of sobriety to 51 years. You couldn’t tell by looking that we were recovering drunks. If anything set us apart from your normal Club Med crowd it would have to be the blissful grins and friendly greetings. We love… Read More
This is a story of the amazing things that can happen when pure love and unfaltering belief join hands. Several years ago I was fortunate enough to come in contact with an amazing young woman called Alice Pyne. Some of you might have heard of Alice. She was a force of nature and a good works who through the malevolent hands of fate was diagnosed with cancer at the age of eleven. But true to Alice’s nature she did… Read More
Infragilis et tenera, unbreakable yet tender. In Japan, a pottery tea cup that has been broken is often fixed with gold, thereby making the broken the most cherished and beautiful. A crack does not mean that the cup should be thrown away; a crack makes it stronger when filled with gold. Have you ever experienced a hairline fracture than ran the whole of your body that started to split, threatening to allow all your innards to spill out? What… Read More
Discipline and Devotion, kissing cousins, best friends and the cornerstones and pillars to making any self-improvement plan, business or relationship work. I have grown to believe that one does not work without the other. You have to be devoted to not only the outcome of what you are doing but to the process of it. It’s not enough to want something; wanting is not devotion. The dictionary describes devotion as commitment, enthusiasm and dedication. You don’t see the word… Read More
A few days ago I was texting with a close friend and fellow recovering alcoholic. We’re especially comfortable with one another, as survivors of addiction tend to be. The shared experience is usually a recipe for honest dialogue at a greater depth than your average “how bout them Bears” conversation. Actually, my complete lack of sports knowledge is reason enough to avoid such manly discussions. While we always celebrate the much improved life our abstinence and the principles of… Read More
Recently I had the lovely pleasure of being in a car accident. Yes that was sarcasm. No it was not lovely. Happened on a Monday night on my way home from work. I hit the car in front of me. Thank goodness everyone involved was okay. Let me just tell you, I was a rattled frazzled mess. My body was shaking – My thoughts trying to comprehend what had just happened. After we exchanged info and he drove away I… Read More
“The Gratitude and Trust Summit” on June 24th taking place at the 92nd Street Y in New York City. Jeff Ken Pulver, Paul Williams and Tracey Jackson will be hosting this event. Background: For anyone who has ever said “This is my last____fill in the blank. For anyone who has tried time and time again to get a handle on their sugar addiction, compulsive shopping or negative thought patterns. For those who feel stuck in their job, their relationships or in their life. For all of… Read More
The news isn’t bad enough these days. We are faced with ISIS burning innocent people alive and chopping off heads like it was the 15th Century, only now they get to immediately upload images to You Tube, for that 21st Century dopamine rush of cyber induced instant gratification. We have Russia falling, currencies crumbling, daily genocide in Africa, and other parts of the world, and then the usual abject poverty, murder and mayhem that is sadly part of life. And then…then… Read More
What is your current work doing to you as a person – to your mind, character and relationships?” ― Roman Krznaric, How to Find Fulfilling Work I am a big fan of the English writer Roman Krznaric. He’s actually not English; he lives in Oxford, was born in Australia and grew up in Sidney and Hong Kong. He has lived all over and is somewhat of a global inhabitant. He works with the School of Life in London. A… Read More
One of the biggest things people grapple with is “How do I just be the person I want to be?” How do I jump in and get the things I want to get. And oddly, like with most things the answer is simple – just do it or in this case just be it. Be the change you wish to see. ~Gandhi People yearn for more love. Yet for many unique reasons they cannot seem to get the love they… Read More