Nov 14 2016

Tracey Jackson



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Behavior, Depression, Disappointment, Friendship, Frustration




I sometimes cross blog. This is a blog I wrote for my site

There are two kinds of people walking around America these days, those who are happy and feel like they have won some big prize and then there are the ones suffering from anxiety, fear, anger and stress. You can tell the later really easily, there is a look in the eye, a slump in the shoulder, a blank stare that translates into WTF happened and what does the future hold.

I am not making fun of PTSD, it can come from many different experiences, battle is only one, many traumas will ignite it.

I can only do my howl at the moon blogs so many days in a row.  I have moments of calm when I think what am I going to do?  How am I going to cope? And how am I going to help others?

I got many emails from people at Gratitude and Trust today asking that I say something.  I’ve kind of let them down.

They are looking for the advice giving side of me and not the pissed off, say whatever the hell I want side of me.

So if you are one of the happy Trumper campers then you can trash this blog now. You can even sign off from all my sites. I really don’t care.  But if you are feeling let down, lost, nervous, anxious and depressed then you might want to keep on reading.

Many people say you should just shut off the news and not pay any attention. Don’t read anything that might upset you, but I am not a believer in the stick your head in the sand lifestyle.  This is real.  Donald J. Trump is the president elect of our country and we have to deal with it. Now more than ever we need to know what is going on in our country.

  • Watch news, but not all the time. I think before bed is distressing. Maybe limit it to a few specific times a day. Discuss it, then drop it.
  • Do things that totally erase your brain and relax you. I work out and try and meditate. A friend I was with last night rakes leaves in her garden. Another bakes. Anything that takes you to a place of happy purpose and calm.
  • Seek out like minded friends and talk to them. The last two nights we spent with friends we knew felt like we do.  The temperature will cool down, but for the moment if you are really an open nerve then don’t expose yourself to people you know you will fight with or have conflict with. It does not mean you won’t see those people again, it means for now if you are upset and you know they had a hand in what is upsetting you, stay away from them. And you know there may be people you never speak to again. This is a big deal. If Donald Trump does some of the things he promises and you feel like he as totally trashed your country, then you won’t want to be around people you know helped him get this power. I know that sounds dramatic. But this is a big fucking deal. I have never lived through any political situation like this in the forty year I have been voting. It’s very polarizing. It’s not just ho hum another Bush. It’s huge and it will split up friendships – no doubt. There are people I have checked off my life list over this.
  • Steer clear of Facebook pages where you know you might get into a fight with someone. Everyone wants to be heard and we are in a period where DT gave America the OK to speak in whatever way they want to whomever they want. So try and just stay out of those rooms. I know my FB friends who are Christian Fundamentalists, arch conservatives and people who will end up disagreeing with me and me with them, so I just stay away.  I have only gotten into one internet skirmish. And I tried to take the high road the first time the person came after me. The second time, pow- I gave it back, then unfriended them. I am very outspoken but I don’t wander onto others sites and attack their positions. I just avoid.
  • Family time. I have been spending a lot of time with my kids and my dogs. It’s soothing and comforting.
  • If you and some members of your family are not on the same page. If your votes cancelled each other out. Agree to disagree for the time being and come back to it again, when things have cooled down. If you legitimately hate your spouse or partner, then maybe this is the straw that breaks the camel’s back. But only you know that.
  • If there are people you disagree with but want to stay close to, remember the part of them you like. I had someone say the most insane thing to me. “Come on Tracey, lighten up, have fun, Melania is glam.” I was like WTF, she’s a Russian hooker. Sorry it doesn’t work for me. We had it back and forth for awhile. But afterwards I remembered how far back we went, that she was always GOP and that it was not worth losing the friendship. Someone else who needled me, I remembered that they were nice to me when I needed a friend, again, hall pass. So the good memory thing does work. If someone is a friend they are likely a friend for a reason. Try and remember why and put that before politics if you can. Again, you might not able to.
  • This is my answer for any anxiety I feel. I clean drawers, closets, the fridge. I have made four trips to the container store since Tuesday. When I put my physical world in order it makes me feel like I have control over a part of my life I don’t.
  • Work helps a lot. Just throw yourself into a project.
  • Surround yourself with physical and audio beauty. Light candles, buy some fresh flowers. Read an uplifting book.
  • Eat something you normally don’t. Don’t’ overdo it, but indulge. My friend Arthur and I compared notes on how much carb loading we did the days following the election. I gave myself till Sunday, then pulled back.
  • Find a new TV show. There are so many great ones. Watch the news, then around 8 turn on something that totally takes your mind off it.
  • Talk to your kids, (if you have them) if they are really young explain that this is not the way our leaders have customarily behaved. That any types of bullying, bigotry, hate slogans and slurs are not alright under any circumstances and it’s really not alright for your leaders to do it.  Then figure out your own way to tell them how this happened. That depends on the age of the child. My older daughter has just needed a shoulder and to hang with me. My younger one is more resilient about it all.
  • Find a cause you stand behind, something that means something to you and donate your time or money if you can afford it to that. If it’s LGBT, then join a support group or lead one. If you are concerned about those who are worried about deportation find a way to help. Read to kids, be a big brother or sister. If you like me care about women’s rights, go join Planned Parenthood. That’s what I did. I’m meeting with the president of the NY chapter this week and donating my time and talents in whatever way I can. I am very pro-choice and very worried about Trump’s positon on this. So I’m doing whatever I can.
  • Be kind. Just because there seems to be a let your mean flag fly vibe in our country at the moment – go out of your way to be kind to people. All people. Many are suffering in different ways and even if they’re not being kind always wins the day.
  • As Michele Obama said, damn I’m going to miss her. “When they go low, you go high”
  • For many of us this is scary as shit, but we will get through it. At least I keep telling myself that.
  • I don’t know how to do this, but something inside me does.


Tracey Jackson

Tracey Jackson is a screenwriter and blogger at Her book Gratitude and Trust is now available.

  • V loud

    I am a bit disappointed with this article. You cannot fight the racism of Trump with more racism and sexism. “When they go low, you go high”.
    I do not know if Melania was a prostitute, if there is proof than call her one but posing nude does not make her one. She is probably a gold digger but that is about it.
    Melania is not even Russian. She is Slovenian. Slovenia is not Russia. It is in Europe, now part of the EU, was part of Yugoslavia, once dominated by Russia but never a part of the USSR. Either way, it does not matter where she came from. If we support immigrants we must never be racist about it and support them all. She is no different to migrants from Asia, Africa and Mexico trying to get a better life. Following war and the the break up of Yugoslavia, she would have been poor and lacking opportunity so took opportunities to leave.

    • Layne Larson

      This has been so hard to put into distinct feelings and words. Thank you. I am still trying to Trust that “something inside me does ” know how to best deal with this… You are not alone- and it’s nice to know I am not either. xoxo

  • Trish Nasworthy

    Thank you, thank you !!! I just exhaled for the first time in a week.

  • Rebecca Shepard

    Thank you Tracy for sharing your heart and mind with us. I feel better when I read someones perspective of this tumultuous time and see I am not alone in my feelings. Up until this election, being a “liberal” seems to have included being considerate and polite as well as loving, kind and compassionate. I held my tongue after 9/11, I kept my political thoughts and feelings to myself. I have seen a lot of hurtful and untrue things said about President Obama over the past 8 years. Now we have this person who is just inappropriate on so many levels and if you say anything about it you get attacked for being a “poor loser”. Interesting times. Times of change. Again, thank you for the helpful reminders – all those activities help a lot. I use music and meditation as my “spiritual practice”. Have for years…the music helps quiet my thoughts and refocus then on love, peace and the beauty in all things…

  • Lorna Falkenstein


  • Roberta

    Scary shit is thinking that a person who allowed our soldiers to die. Scary shit is knowing that she sent classified information on unsecured emails. Oh yea then distroyed the evidence. Speaking of first ladles. Bill Clinton’s track record speaks for it self. How about we give a stong successful businessman a shot at fixing “omama mess” stuffing his beliefs down our throats forcing people to buy and the rest to support insurance they can not afford. You in your position..offering support and help to those like myself who are struggling with addiction and health issues should post a neutral opinion. That is if you really gave a shit about the people who buy your products and support YOU. Your “Letting Go” has given me strength and I read it daily even shared it with my group. Now I look at it and know you dont care about the people reading you dont care if we unsubscribe.. that is hate. That is sad state of this country and you. Shame on you.

    • Joe Schmo

      Have you just ignored the news where the FBI TWICE had found Hillary did absolutely nothing wrong with relations to emails?
      Did you also miss where Russia is responsible for planting emails of supposed question?
      Did you also miss the Republican National Convention where Trump, on live broadcast national TV stood and begged Russia, if your going to do something now is the time???
      Looks like they heard him and ALONE should not only disqualify him from being president of the United States but could also disqualify him from being and REVOKE his U.S. citizenship. He is an embarrassment to every person who has given his or her life for this country.
      He has not made us great again, we only stopped being great the day he was elected president!!!!

      • Preaching to the converted Joe. I’m with you all the way.

    • How’s it working for you Roberta? Still loving him?

      I just saw this comment. Do I care if people are helped by our work? Absolutely. Or we would not do it.

      Do I think my politics and my feelings about indidivual responsitlbity are mutally exclusive? No. I don’t approve of Trump. His policies, his infantile, punitive ways, his cruelty, his inabitly to lead oru country and pay attention to what matters , his sexual record.
      I don’t care about people’s personal lives unless they are leaders, in which case they are held to higher standards. And I find it odd the Christian Right does not care about the porn stars and the bunnies and the fact weeks after his wife gave birth he was out on the town so to speak.

      What is sad, is people such as yourself, grappllng with addiction who find solace in G & T mix up advice and knowledge with crooked politics. I hope this kind of polairty changes. I hope you continue to find comfort in Letting Go. I hope we can all heal, but we were not like this pre- Trump. That is true and it’s sad. I wish you all the best.

  • Joe Schmo

    Even tho this is now an older blog I have just read it for the first time and realise I am not alone, others are as worried and as scared as I am.
    A huge thanks to Tracey for sharing it.
    I will also be reading more about her, she seems a very wise woman from what I’ve read so far. Wisdom is something our political leaders seem to lack in any quantity while they seem to be content to draw salaries from “the people” they seem equally content to no longer represent!

    • Thank you Joe. I think it is easier in these times when one is on the same political page which we clearly are. It’s a tough time in this country. But it feels like the truth might set us free again!